Continuing on a theme: my last note was about my own challenges around orgasm. There's a lot to explore there.
But today, something else: I love doing orgasm control with my partners.
The highlights are those times I can see it's more important to them to be under my control than to experience their own pleasure — they've set aside their momentary desires to let me decide whether or not they cum.
It's such a wonderful privilege to be given that control. 🥰
Fond Memory One: taking someone from asking me for permission to cum, to begging me to deny them when they got close. Before that, they never thought they'd ever want to be denied... let alone ask to be. 🥵🥵🥵
Fond Memory Two: someone who normally came very easily and intensely, doing such a good job at holding back despite the Hitachi and bondage tape... until I merely snapped my fingers at them and said, "Lose."
And they couldn't help but oblige. 🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵
Control of your body, of your pleasure—that's the intimacy I crave. 😊