I was thinking about power dynamics today. No surprise, but I’ve been fortunate enough to be developing a new dynamic lately, so it’s especially on my mind.
I was thinking about how intensely erotic and fulfilling it feels to claim ownership of someone, and to be owned.
At the same time, of course, one person cannot in fact “own” another person.
So the more intense a dynamic feels, the more important it is for us to hold it lightly in hand. When our inclination might be to clutch it as tightly as we can.
As much as the power dynamic matters, I want to be prepared to set it aside when needed. When that’s what the relationship demands: the greater relationship of which the dynamic is only one part.