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Spending Time on Kink; or, Porn vs. Playmates

Aug 25 2020
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I have been spending a lot of time on my hypnokink in the last few months.

I’ve been very fortunate to have no fewer than 3 frequent playmates in that time, and we talk a lot. Plus, I joined Twitter, and it’s a fun way to interact with …

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Two Types of Submission

Aug 18 2020
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I’ve been negotiating with some of my playmates how we can play together as a group. This is new ground for me, and it’s both exciting... and challenging.

I don’t have tons of experience with intense, ongoing D/s dynamics. I’ve done some of that, but …

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On Needs

Jul 31 2020
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Sometimes I wonder if I could be a good “top”.

See, I’m switchy. That doesn’t even really cover it, actually: “switchy” kind of suggests I might like switching sometimes. No. I need to be submissive. And I also need to be dominant. Yeah, I have a given mood …

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Wanting to Be Wanted

Nov 28 2017
Last update: Mar 8 2023
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You know, it just this moment coalesced for me what turns me on and off about potential partners on either the dom or sub part of the spectrum.

I like being controlled, but I don’t like being an object of scorn. I don’t like “female1 supremacy”, I …

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